The Husband Challenge Day 16
And the LORD God said, "It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a
helper comparable to him."
God says that it is not good for man to be alone. But the way some women nag and whine their mates, the husbands may long for solitude. Remember yesterday? Don't be a dripping faucet!! Be careful today not to criticize your mate, but look for ways to encourage him personally and publicly.
We, as wives, were fearfully and wonderfully made to be a companion to our man. To help him, be there for him, encourage him..whatever he needs we should take pride in helping him. When the vows were said..we became "one flesh" with God.
The thing that keeps popping up in my mind today is communicate.
Communication can solve so many problems. Communicate however you two do it. If sitting down at the table and having a discussion is what you do..then do it. Make plans to do it..write it on the calendar! Thank your husband for communicating with you...Men aren't natual communicators...They don't talk about feelings and needs..so if this actually happens in your house..you are a very lucky woman and do NOT take it for granted.
The best way my husband and I communicate is through letters..we are both very Type A personalities..which means niether one of us can let go of control...which doesn't make for a nice conversation...but in a letter..only one person can talk...and the other has to listen before responding. Do whatever works for you!
If your spouse does not communicate as you wish, look for ways that he communicates
that are normal for him: smiling at you, nodding his head, even a pleasant grunt, and
then thank him for letting you know that he cares. Perhaps he needs to be lovingly
taught how to communicate. Be patient with him . . . and listen when he does speak.