11.29.2012

The Husband Challenge Day 30



What? This is it? Wow! We made it!
I am so proud of you for following along...and proud of myself for sticking with this!
If you have gotten this far and you have read all thirty days...I thank you from the bottom of my heart!!!

Here we go..
Last Day!


Day Thirty

This is my beloved, and this is my friend.
(Song of Solomon 5:16b)

Friends can be completely honest with each other, but friendships are strained when

truth is not spoken in love. How are you speaking to your beloved? Are you so "used" to

him that you don't appreciate the wonder of his friendship? That is your challenge today.

Is your sweetheart your best friend? Does he know this? Have you told him, or do you assume he "just knows"?

Friendship is something that is cultivated through the good times and the bad. Friends

can share their hearts, but they don't step on each other's hearts.

The way to have and be a good friend is to cultivate and celebrate the relationship. As

you end this "30-Day Encouragement Challenge," celebrate your friendship with your

husband. Get alone and reflect on your beloved friend. Write him a letter, listing the

qualities you admire and appreciate about him. If you are creative with words, write and

frame a poem about him.

Perhaps you can prepare a special meal, just for the two of you, and read the letter or

poem to him. Ask if you can pray for him, and if he is willing, thank God for your love

and friendship, asking for His blessing on your home. Encouragement, as you have seen

these past 30 days, is a synonym for love in action.

***

How has this challenge changed your heart and life, dear friend? Did God encourage

you as you planned ways to encourage your husband? Were there difficult days where

you simply needed to trust that God was working? Days when it was hard to leave the

results to God? Remember that God is faithful, and He will bless you for your

willingness to obey Him. His ways are not our ways, and perhaps He will honor you in

ways you do not expect, but one thing is sure—you will never be the same because of

your commitment to be more like Christ!

What kinds of victories have you experienced in your home since you started the "30-

Day Encouragement Challenge"? Would you take a moment to share these victories

with me? And again..Thank you so much for following this little series on my blog...I

appreciate you! 

11.28.2012

The Husband Challenge Day 29




Day Twenty-nine

A prudent man foresees evil, and hides himself; the simple pass on, and are punished.(Prov. 27:12)



As you near the end of your Encouragement Challenge, take time to think about your

husband's responses to the wickedness of the culture, the media, etc. Does your

husband recognize and avoid evil? Does he regularly turn his back on pornography,

sexual temptations, and the urge to lie and cheat?

This is a valuable character trait. Like Joseph in the Old Testament, who fled from the

wicked advances of Potiphar's wife, this takes an understanding that these kinds of sins

are first and foremost, sins against God (Gen. 39:9).

Praise your husband when he recognizes and turns his back on wickedness. If you can think of a circumstance where your husband stood for righteousness, remind him of that today—and express your gratitude.

11.27.2012

The Husband Challenge Day 28




Day Twenty-eight

The fear of the LORD is the instruction of wisdom, and before honor is humility.
(Prov. 15:33)

Sometimes, when we just "know" we are right and our husbands are wrong, it takes

great humility to honor them. It is difficult to speak well of our husbands when our own

hearts are puffed up with pride. Pick your battles...is it worth putting a dent in your marriage? Even if you are right..let it go..if it isn't important and later when your husband realizes that were right..He will take note. He might not tell you..but he will notice.

As part of your Encouragement Challenge today, pray that you will respond to the Lord

in faith and humility before you react to your husband. Speak wisely and well, and leave

the results to God.

The humility that comes from a right relationship with God—the humility that comes

when a man is willing to listen to God and be taught from His Word—is indeed a

beautiful quality. Jesus was an example of this kind of humility when he was willing to

submit to His Father's will (John 6:38; Matt. 26:39).

Does your husband have that kind of humility? Is he willing to learn from and submit to

direction from the Lord? Let your husband know how precious this is to your marriage

relationship.

Women Connect 2012



My wonderful blog designer Becky who blogs at From Mrs to Mama is having a get together over in her area of the blogosphere..and I am super excited about it!

It's called Women Connect 2012!
A place where women can find each other, connect and get inspired!



Let's face it..Women are relational emotional creatures. We need each other. To vent, To gossip, To cry, To whine, To rejoice, To pray, To seek advice, To dress up, To go to the bathroom..LOL! We need each other!!

This is a great opportunity for all women alike to join up in this linky and get to know other women who are in your similar situation ... or meet someone totally different from your situation!

All you have to do is write up a post about you and head on over to From Mrs to Mama and link up!

Now.. I have to write up a post about myself...isn't that the age old interview question that you Despise! So..Tell me about yourself.
What do you say?
Where do you start?
Do you want all the details or the short version?

I think this question is one of the hardest to answer..about yourself...so stick with me and I'm going to try my best!

I am Nikki..used to be Turner...now I'm a Brewer. I have been a Brewer for five years now!! Best five years of my life..everyone says that..but I mean it. I love my husband...he is the best...for me!
 
We were married in September and in December I called him while he out in the woods hunting to tell him we were going to be a family...the next August...Miss Lyla Faye entered our world and made us the happiest parents on the planet! She is four now with an adult sarcastic attitude and honestly thinks she is destined to be a princess...Hey..a girl can dream right! I am still waiting for the day my father tells me that I was adopted and I am a lost princess of another nation...one day...One day ....it might happen. 


See..the attitude I was talking about!
I'm not playing around here.....she is four going on twenty four
 
 
 
Along with Lyla..we also have two dogs..Our big Great Dane, Nala, and our little chihuahua, Daisy Jo..
 
 

 


I have an inhome preschool and consider myself blessed to be able to do that as a job! I get to stay home with my baby girl and we have friends come over to play and learn! I love it!
Absolutely love it!
 I am starting college in 2013 to finish up my Bachelor's degree in Early Childhood Education.
My husband is in the Air Force National Guard and I couldn't be prouder of him. I thank God he chose not to do active duty..I am not very good with change or traveling.
I am a complete Daddy's girl and I adore my little brother..family means alot to me. I proudly proclaim that I am a Christian..and totally addicted to Dr Pepper. I love my little town here in Arkansas..yes we wear shoes here.. I love to read, organize and try to scrapbook...I take way to many pictures...but mostly my day is spent doing dishes and laundry while cleaning up the mess that "no one" makes!
I love my life right now and I can not wait to see what God has in store for me next!
 
 
I originally started blogging when I found out I was pregnant with Lyla..I thought it would be a great way to keep memories ...but I quickly found out that blogging took to much of time away from her..especially with me working outside the home at that time. I don't post alot of mommy stuff here on the blog Lyla because I like the handwritten approach. I love to see my grandmother's handwriting and I want Lyla to be able to have mine when I am gone. What keeps me blogging are things like these...connecting...the community. I have gotten so many ideas and so much inspiration for crafts or even getting over bad days from reading blogs.
 
Thanks Becky for linking us up! 



11.26.2012

The Husband Challenge Day 27




Day Twenty-seven

Be of good courage, and he shall strengthen your heart, all you who hope in the

LORD.

(Ps. 31:24)

You have almost completed the "30-Day Encouragement Challenge." Perhaps it has

taken you a tremendous amount of courage to speak words of encouragement

consistently to your husband. Courage comes as we place our trust in God. I know it isn't

super easy...but Have faith that God will continue to work long after your encouraging words

have been shared.

There are lots of "tough guys" in the world, but true courage comes from the Lord. Does

your husband exhibit the courage to take an unpopular stand, perhaps even to stand

alone against evil? Is he courageous in his faith? Does he work hard to change

injustice? Is he a stickler for the truth? Does he protect you or your family from the

attacks of the Enemy?

Psalm 27:14 says this kind of courage comes from "waiting" on the Lord for His

strength. If your budget allows, "award" your husband with a medal, trophy, framed

picture of a brave knight, or some other token that represents his courage as a man of

God. Praise evidences of your husband's courage in protecting you, your marriage,

your family, or your home.
 

11.25.2012

The Husband Challenge Day 26




Day Twenty-six

And Jesus increased in wisdom and stature, and in favor with God and men.
(Luke 2:52)

If you have faithfully encouraged your husband, you will no doubt have seen some

changes in his life . . . and your own life, as well.

 Encouragement is a wonderful habit that I hope you will continue for the rest of your life.

The important thing is to keep growing in Christ and obeying the Word of God as you

respond to your husband. As you consider today how to bless your husband and not

tear him down, think of ways that you can encourage balance in your home.

Jesus led a balanced life. He grew mentally, physically, spiritually, and socially. As you

see your husband branching out in these areas, is there a pattern of growth? Is your

husband striving for balance in his life? If so, let him know you have noticed, and ask

how you can further encourage that balance.

If your husband is out of balance—focusing on one area to the exclusion of the others—consider whether there are things you can do to help restore or create balance in his

life. Can you encourage times for sports or exercise? Keep the children quiet for a study

time? Invite friends over for dinner? Stimulate his mind?

Be sure you are working toward balance in your own life, as well. Be an example!

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11.24.2012

The Husband Challenge Day 25




Day Twenty-five

Seek peace, and pursue it.
(Ps. 34:14b)

You will keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on You, because he trusts in

You.

(Isa. 26:3)

Before you consider whether these verses describe your husband, consider your own

presence in the home. Do you promote an atmosphere of peace, or do critical words

often flow from your mouth? Do you struggle with anger? If so, before you continue with

your Encouragement Challenge, confess these sinful habits to the Lord, and determine

to speak words of peace to your family today.

Does your husband bring an atmosphere of peace into your home? Is his presence a

calming influence? Does he bring music, entertainment, books or people into your home
that build a sense of serenity?

Let him know how much you appreciate this wonderful quality, and support his choices.

If, on the other hand, he is quickly angered or he creates chaos rather than calm, ask

God to give you an abundance of the kind of peace that will speak to his heart. Be

patient and loving. Create an inviting atmosphere of peace, as much as possible.

11.23.2012

The Husband Challenge Day 24





Day Twenty-four

And you, fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath, but bring them up in the

training and admonition of the Lord.

(Eph. 6:4)

Children can be quite a challenge to the marriage relationship. A wise wife will support

her husband's leadership in the home as much as possible, and will praise him for his

fathering skills. Negativity makes a man feel like a failure, and may make him to want to give up.

Does your husband discipline your children wisely? Does he show them love and
encourage them? Does he take an interest in their activities and dreams? Does he
spend time with them? Does he take part in developing their character? Praise him for these important life skills.

If you don't have children, is your husband positive and encouraging around other

people's children? Let him know that you have noticed.

If your husband does not experience positive relationships with children, you will need

to figure out why. Perhaps he had negative experiences as a child with his own parents,

and needs to learn how to respond. Perhaps you can lovingly and patiently show him

how to parent—while still maintaining his authority in the home.

11.22.2012

The Husband Challenge Day 23




Let your speech always be with grace.
(Col. 4:6a)

You're moving toward the home stretch of your 30-day challenge! Just a reminder of

what you've committed:

"You can't say anything negative about your husband . . . to your husband . . . or to anyone else, about your husband. "Each day, say something that you admire or appreciate about your husband . . . to your husband . . . and to someone else, about your husband!


Day Twenty Three

In all things showing yourself to be a pattern of good works.
(Titus 2:7a)

Does the "30-Day Encouragement Challenge" seem like hard work? Or is it becoming a

pleasant exercise in genuine Christ-likeness in your home? You are only scratching the

surface of ways to encourage your mate.

Is your husband organized? Is he diligent? Is he persistent? These are all related to a
pattern of personal disciplines that are worthy of your praise. Affirm him for one or more of these traits that you see in him.

Some men have not developed these qualities because they are naturally more

spontaneous. You can praise his spontaneity! Perhaps God has called you alongside to

help him with disciplines he has not yet developed—but this does not include nagging.

You can keep him organized.

Whatever the need, you can be your husband's cheerleader, encouraging him when he

wants to give up.

11.21.2012

The Husband Challenge Day 22



Day Twenty Two


Let your speech always be with grace.
(Col. 4:6a)

Today is Thanksgiving Day 2012!! There will be alot of hustle and bustle today..I pray that you all find time to read this before the craziness starts ..because today I want you to Focus on how you represent your husband in your home, your church, and your community.

In this challenge to encourage, ask: "If the only things your family and friends knew of your husband is the things you have said about him..what would they think of him?

Do you need to change your filter?

I know women talk..we need to vent...but when you do ..remember to go back and vent about something good too..You don't want your best friend to end up not liking your husband because she only hears bad things.


Do you talk positively about your husband to others . . . or do you complain and criticize? Your speech should reflect 1 Cor. 13 love. Your words should be kind, and should never "rejoice in iniquity" (v. 6). Refrain from listing your husband's faults to others. Satan likes to trick us in this area. Be wary of sharing barbed "prayer requests."

Remember, "Love will cover a multitude of sins" (1 Pet. 4:8b). Present your husband

before others today in a strong, positive manner. Slip in a "good word" for your spouse.

Resist the urge to correct or belittle him in front of others. Some of what you say may

come back to him—and you want your words to be sweet, building him up and never

tearing him down.

Don't forget: you are always criticizing—or encouraging—before an audience. God hears your conversations when you are alone with your husband in your own home. May your speech be always seasoned with grace.

***

While you are considering how your speech can reflect the grace of the Lord in your

husband's life, don't forget that your words can also encourage others. When you share

what God is doing in your life through this "30-Day Encouragement Challenge," others

will be blessed. Perhaps other wives will be moved to take up this challenge. Please take a moment and tell me how things are going for you..I would love to hear from you!! 

The Husband Challenge Day 21




Day Twenty One

But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be

added to you.

(Matt. 6:33)

If we are living a Christian life, everything we think, do or say is seen from an eternal

perspective. We will someday give an account for our failure to speak words of love and

encouragement. Determine today that your words will be sweet and helpful.

I know it is probably going to be a crazy day. Family may be coming in....all ovens and stoves are going...but just remember to enjoy the moment.

Does your husband have an eternal perspective that allows him to reject materialism? Express your gratefulness for his value system, and praise him for putting eternal things before riches and things of this world.

If this is a problem area for him, consider how you might alter your own value system
and live for eternity in front of him, encouraging him to do the same.

Only two things will go into eternity...

the Word of God and people. Be sure that you are focusing on the right things.



 

11.20.2012

A Christmas Challenge: The Last Well





I wrote a post earlier about participating in the Good Morning Girls Advent Study..which we would love for you to join with us..but not only are we aiming to get into God's Word together..we are aiming to change the world together!!
And We Can!

Today I’m inviting you to join Good Morning Girls and myself along with my bible study group of women to change an ENTIRE NATION in the name of Jesus!!!

Good Morning Girls has teamed up with a Christian organizatioin called The Last Well who is on a mission to provide clean water to the entire country of Liberia! And in addition to giving out water they plan on sharing the gospel of Jesus Christ to every one they meet!!

Good Morning Girls have over 16.000 women who participate in their bible studies. A ministry of women uniting to make the habit of having one on one time with God and holding friends accountable who need it. I love being a part of this group and just this past study I have had the privilege of leading my own group which has blessed me greatly! With 16,000 women spreading the word ... we could serve water to that whole country in no time!

So far, TLW has reached over 200,000 men, women and children in Liberia with water and the Gospel. Their goal: To reach every Liberian with water and the Gospel by the end of this decade! I believe we can help them meet this goal even FASTER and thereby help save more lives in the process!
 
Here is Angela of Good Morning Girls sitting down to talk with Tod Phillips, the founder of The Last Well 
Here is a little info from the Good Morning Girls blog:

Why this organization?

  • It meets a basic need. Clean water. Men, women and children are dying because they don’t have the very basics…..clean water.
  • Local men and women in the communities are trained how to dig, maintain and repair the wells that are created through this organization.
  • The money we raise is MATCHED!
  • We are able to track how much money has been raised through GoodMorningGirls from our own personal site! (Check it out)
  • Jesus the “Living Water” is shared with the people in these communities as their need of physical water is met.
Why water?

  • It’s the first physical building block in helping a community become healthier. Everything else like health, food and livelihood builds upon it.
  • Unsafe water is the world’s number one killer…..it kills more people every year than all forms of violence, including war!
  • Of the thousands of people who die daily from this problem, 90% are children under the age of five. As a mom of 3 girls ages 6,5, and 1, I feel compelled to stand in the gap for these children and do something about this issue!
  • The hard truth: These deaths are preventable….with access to clean water.
Why Liberia?
Check out this video on why Todd chose this country.


How much does one well cost?

  • ONE dollar gives ONE Liberian clean water for ONE year. How many people can you help?
  • Purchase a water well for a community in Liberia for $3000. The average well serves 1000 people!
  • Purchase a bio-sand water filter for one family in rural Liberia for $102. You can give an entire family clean water!
How Can You Get Involved?
  • Add The Last Well to your Christmas list.
  • Talk with your family about The Last Well and give a family gift.
  • Give up a Christmas gift(s) and instead donate the money to The Last Well.
  • Invite your children to give up a Christmas gift(s) and donate the money to The Last Well.
  • Have a “Happy Birthday Jesus” party with your friends and their kids. (I talk about this idea in our Advent eBook on page 40) Instead of having children bring gifts to donate, have them donate the money online and learn more about the need for clean water in Liberia, building awareness of how other children live around the world.
  • Tell friends about THE LAST Well by sharing this graphic on Facebook, Twitter and Pinterest, informing more people of this wonderful organization and the great need of physical water and the “Living Water” in Liberia!
  • PRAY! Pray God will use us mightily in this nation for HIS GLORY!
 I will be the first to admit that I take my running water for granted! I could not imagine having to walk miles to the nearest water source.
We are wanting to raise $10,000 and we are already up to $4,000 ....


 

11.19.2012

The Husband Challenge Day 20



Day Twenty

Wow! Day twenty..Are you still with me? I sure hope so!!
We are almost done.. I would love to know if you are seeing any difference!!

And be kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God in Christ

also forgave you.

(Eph. 4:32)

It's time for some heart examination...for us as wives.  As you continue in this 30-day challenge, have you found any roots of bitterness that are contaminating your relationship with your husband?
Do you understand that as long as you are unwilling to forgive your husband—by God's grace and in His power—you will not be able to encourage him? Your own resentment will keep getting in the way. Now is the time to deal with any unforgiving attitudes. Forgive him, even as God has forgiven you. I don't know about you guys but some of the arguments me and my husband..even the big ones...a couple weeks later or even at the time..I can't even remember "how" they got started...Can you?

Another one of my faults is when we do get into an argument..I am mad..I mean mad..for like a while...My husband can be completely over it in ten minutes. I love him for that..but it aggrevates the dog out of me!! So my point...pick your battles..if you are going to go to odds with your husband make sure it is about something that you have a strong point of view on and that you will be able to remember "why" you started the conversation.

Is your husband a forgiving man? Does he keep short accounts of your problems? Express your thankfulness for such a man.

Does your husband seem to harbor grudges against you? If so, could there be things you need to change? Get together...or by yourself..and make a list of all those past hurts..or arguements or things said..and let him know that you are starting clean..you forgive him..and you hope that if you have done anything to him...that he will let you know..so you know what to change and that he will forgive you.

 

The Importance of your "About Me" page



I have been blogging for a while..but haven't really took it seriously until here recently. I have been trying to familiarize myself with "bloggy" terms and etiquette. Yes..blogging is its own little world..in fact..they call it the "BLOGOSHPERE"

I love looking at other blogs..I love reading what people have to say and what is going on in their lives at the moment. I have noticed that when I stumble upon a new blog..the first thing I do is go to their "About Me" page.

So for those of you who haven't been blogging long..I thought I would tell you of

The Importance of your About Me page

Lani Roasales is a blogger for realtors at AgentGenius.com and I love her quote:

A frequent offense we witness with bloggers is an outdated, useless, lame or ugly "about" page. When people visit websites, a shortcut for them getting to know you is to click on your "about" button, so this is your opportunity to capture them...It is like a handshake at a party

Lani has also made a list of Do's and Don'ts for your About page..so this is her list in "Nikki's version"

The Basics of your About Me page should include:
  1. a picture of yourself..it puts a face with the name
  2. an overview of what your blog is about...I like to read crafty, mom, organizing blogs..with a little bit of science and news blog..so when I visit a blog if it is listed as any of those..it is probably going on my read list..not that other blogs are bad..just my preference..this is also a place to tell how you are different from every other blog out there..list your niche..your "why" you blog.
  3. contact info..if you write an awesome post..someone might want you to guest blog..there are so many different comment plug ins now and captcha's *where you have to type in the word from the box* that comments can get lost or never seen..so prominantly display your email. If you are worried about spam use the blogger way such as: nbrewer24ATliveDOTcom If they aren't a robot most people will know that AT means @ and DOT means .
  4. interesting info about yourself...there is alot to you..so what you list about you could be a mile long..just make sure it is funny or interesting..
  5. tell us your goals.. short or long term..about your blog or life *if it relates to your blog*...or just goals for your About page (to introduce yourself or encourage contact)
  6. tell whether you are or are not interested in PR or marketing...there is an opportunity to make money with your blog..many ways which is a whole other post..but if you are interested list what you are or are not interested in...reviews, giveaways, etc so if a marketer visits your blog they can quickly tell if you are a fit for their product or if you are not interested at all.
What your About Me page should NOT include:

  1. Your list of 100 things...to long.. to much to read...you might be able to get away with 25 if and only if they are very interesting
  2. your life history from birth til now..sorry..but I don't care..I want to know what your life is like now and if you have a life that I can relate with..unless your history directly relates to your blog such as you were pecked in the ear at the age of 6 and now you write a blog for the deaf..other than that.. get to the here and now
  3. irrelevant info...in other words..KISS...Keep It Short and Simple
Additional info you could add:
  1. Purpose of establing yourself in your niche... are you a artsy craftsy blog, a food blog, a fitness blog, a mommy blog.. you could put in links to other sites you have written for just to establish your area of interest
  2. purpose of wanting to speak at conferences ...there are many many blog conferences ...here is a place where you can give your resume and tell why you are interested in speaking
  3. purpose of wanting a sponsor to go to an event.. if you want to go to an event that is related to your blog such as a conference you can ask for sponsors to defray your costs..you of course want to reach out to individual businesses with a customized request but it wouldn't hurt to list it here as well..just be exact in what you are looking for and what their sponsorship would do
  4. purpose of wanting to work with marketers..do you want to host give away, review products..google disclosure policies and get you one..list it here..and put what products you would be interested in reviewing or giving away.. let them know your traffic and readers..such as you have a readership of mothers of chidlren under two...you don't have to give specific numbers...generalizations should be good as long as you give enough info.
There you go!
If you are a visual person like myself..then I suggest you go to google or bing ...or even your reader if you are already following blogs you like and look at their about me pages to get inspiration.

Hope this helped someone...Now I have to go take a look at my about me page and make sure it is up to speed! So don't use mine for inspiration!!

11.18.2012

The Husband Challenge Day 19



Day Nineteen

Read a wife's description of her beloved in Song of Solomon 5:10-16.

10 My beloved is radiant and ruddy,
outstanding among ten thousand.
11 His head is purest gold;
his hair is wavy
and black as a raven.
12 His eyes are like doves
by the water streams,
washed in milk,
mounted like jewels.
13 His cheeks are like beds of spice
yielding perfume.
His lips are like lilies
dripping with myrrh.
14 His arms are rods of gold
set with topaz.
His body is like polished ivory
decorated with lapis lazuli.
15 His legs are pillars of marble
set on bases of pure gold.
His appearance is like Lebanon,
choice as its cedars.
16 His mouth is sweetness itself;
he is altogether lovely.
This is my beloved, this is my friend,
daughters of Jerusalem.


Criticism leaves scars; but encouragement can bring healing. Remember that today as

you focus on your "30-Day Encouragement Challenge."

Almost nothing is as devastating to a man as the belief that his wife finds him repulsive.

Sadly, many women unwisely criticize their husbands' bodies.

Have you ever considered how wonderfully God designed men and women? No matter

how a man looks—by the standards of the world—a loving God designed them all, and

they are all "beautiful" in His sight. Encourage your husband today by praising his

uniqueness.

As you look over your husband's body, from the tip of his toes to his bald or bushy head,

thank God that your husband is "wonderfully made," then admire your husband verbally.

(Strong arms? Hairy chest? Firm hands? Big feet? Rugged chin? Wide shoulders?

Compassionate eyes? Broad smile?)

Pick one and tell him. You know we as women love to hear that we beautiful..and we start to feel blah when our husband's haven't told us that in a while...
Here is a secret..Husbands like to hear that too!
I am not near as smooth and sweet as the woman in Song of Solomon..but I can do a simple "Hey babe..You look very handsome today!"

 

11.17.2012

The Husband Challenge Day 18




You will show me the path of life. In your presence is fullness of joy . . . Happy are the

people whose God is the LORD!

(Ps. 16:11a; 144:15b)

A merry heart does good like medicine.
(Prov. 17:22a)

It's hard to criticize others when we are enjoying their company. Instead of speaking

negatively to your husband today, enjoy him! Encourage him! As you experience

fullness of joy with God, share some of that joy with your husband.

Does your husband have a playful side? A great sense of humor? Is there a "little boy"

that wants to escape from time to time, reflecting the joy in his heart?

This is a wonderful part of who he is, and a great strength. Let him know that you

appreciate his joyfulness and his playful spirit. Find opportunities to join him in positive

play times.

If your husband can sometimes be overly serious, coax him out occasionally for some

play times. It will help him relieve stress and relax.

11.16.2012

The Husband Challenge Day 17




The fear of the LORD is the beginning of wisdom, and the knowledge of the Holy One

is understanding.

(Prov. 9:10)

Are you a wise woman? Do you open your mouth with wisdom, as Proverbs 31:26

suggests? As you continue in your 30-day challenge, remember that a wise woman

encourages her husband.

Is your husband a "wise man?" Does he have a godly perspective that comes from

knowing God and walking with Him in obedience? Does he have a sense of purpose for

his life and vision for your home? Tell him how much this means to you.

If you are not sure about your husband's vision for your home, ask him, "Honey, what

do you want to accomplish with our marriage and home in the years to come?" and

"How can I help you accomplish that?" If he does not have a vision, your questions may

inspire him to develop one.

If your husband is not walking with God—or perhaps, does not know the Lord—you have the opportunity and responsibility to practice your faith and create a thirst for God.

Thank God for giving your husband a place in his heart that only He can fill, and keep

praying that he will turn to the Lord to fill that vacuum!

Upcoming Bible Study: Advent-Keeping our hearts focused on Jesus




About 8 weeks ago I started a Bible Study with the Good Morning Girls. We took the book of Colossians and dissected it verse by verse. I made a small group of women on Facebook where we can go and share our thoughts along with gaining a tremendous amount of insight reading others thoughts! I honestly didn't think I would make it through the whole 8 weeks....but I did! I think a great reason for that is because of our accountability in our Facebook Group. I have grown to love those girls and feel like I know them all personally!
 
I’m so excited about the upcoming Bible Study on GoodMorningGirls.org !
It’s a 4 week Advent Study – Keeping Our Hearts Focused on Jesus,
It begins November 26th!
I would LOVE for you to join me and our group!
For this study..the Good Morning Girls Leadership Team has made a FREE Advent eBook which will guide us through our 4 week study. I am super excited about this fact..I already have plans to print it out and bind it like an actual study book!
 
 
 
The {GMG} Advent eBook includes:
  • Weekly Devotions
  • Assigned Scripture Reading
  • Daily Family Activities
  • Recipes
  • S.O.A.P. Journal Pages
Anyone can get this ebook for the study..and did you hear me I said typed that it is Totally FREE!!
I have the link in our group..or you can go to GoodMorningGirls.org and subscribed to their blog so when you get an email update of blog postings it will be at the bottom of the email for you to download.
Here are a few girls of the Leadership Team announcing the new study. I love that they are excited!!
 
 
Please feel free to invite your family and friends to join you for this upcoming study by sharing this image with them. You can post it on your Facebook pages, pin it on Pinterest, or upload it to Twitter or your blog! To save the image, simply right-click and select “Save Image As”!
We are so looking forward to you joining us this Christmas as we keep our hearts focused on Jesus, this Christmas season!
 
 

11.15.2012

The Husband Challenge Day 16




And the LORD God said, "It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a

helper comparable to him."

(Gen. 2:18)

God says that it is not good for man to be alone. But the way some women nag and whine their mates, the husbands may long for solitude. Remember  yesterday? Don't be a dripping faucet!!  Be careful today not to criticize your mate, but look for ways to encourage him personally and publicly.

We, as wives, were fearfully and wonderfully made to be a companion to our man. To help him, be there for him, encourage him..whatever he needs we should take pride in helping him. When the vows were said..we became "one flesh" with God.

The thing that keeps popping up in my mind today is communicate.
Communication can solve so many problems. Communicate however you two do it. If sitting down at the table and having a discussion is what you do..then do it. Make plans to do it..write it on the calendar! Thank your husband for communicating with you...Men aren't natual communicators...They don't talk about feelings and needs..so if this actually happens in your house..you are a very lucky woman and do NOT take it for granted.

The best way my husband and I communicate is through letters..we are both very Type A personalities..which means niether one of us can let go of control...which doesn't make for a nice conversation...but in a letter..only one person can talk...and the other has to listen before responding. Do whatever works for you!


If your spouse does not communicate as you wish, look for ways that he communicates

that are normal for him: smiling at you, nodding his head, even a pleasant grunt, and

then thank him for letting you know that he cares. Perhaps he needs to be lovingly

taught how to communicate. Be patient with him . . . and listen when he does speak.

The Husband Challenge Day 15




Grow in the grace and knowledge of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ.
(2 Pet. 3:18a)

Sometimes we live so close to our spouse that we fail to see him as others do; or how we used to... we only tend to see our husband's faults. Which is normal. I, with all of my heart, think that makign a man and woman live together under the same roof and get along was another one of God's punishments from The Garden! It is impossible to live with another human being and not fight! We all have our days where it doesn't matter what he does..he is wrong. ....and vice versa!
But..take a step back...breathe!

Is he growing spritually in ways you haven't noticed or failed to appreciate? How can you encourage him in a fresh new way?

This whole challenge I have been sending little text messages to my husband....a new way would be actually talking to him..or writing him a letter...Find another way to encourage...

Make his favorite dinner..just to let him know you know what his favorite is?..or better yet..make his favorite dessert...or BE his dessert..that will get his attention!

Remember your husband is accountable to God for his spritual growth..and we are here to encourage that growth not hinder it. God created us to be man's helper..not whiner and complainer.

The bible even says that a nagging women is like a dripping faucet...
Can anyone say OUCH!

Can you identify a spiritual strength in your husband? Does he pray or read his Bible regularly? Does he like to discuss spiritual matters? Does he go to church with you? Is he a spiritual leader? What do others say of him?

If you can identify any of these...tell him and praise him for it!


If not, pray earnestly that God will work in his heart, and watch for signs of spiritual

growth in the future.